Temitope Tomiwa Dada Foundation Community Outreach 2021

  

 COMMUNITY OUTREACH 2021

We live in a world that encompasses a major share of the poor and downtrodden. Each person may have a different need in his/her life. While some yearn for success, some don’t have the most basic amenities such as a shelter, Clothings or enough food to eat. But that’s not all, some people may be in need of mere affection, those who are longing to see smiles. 

   EMPATHY & ACTIONS SAVES LIVES!!

Help us give hope those who have none. Join hands with us as we reach out to people around us by giving and making them happy….. - Tomiwa Dada & Tope Dada

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Contact: 08128521572

temitopetomiwadadafoundation@gmail.com

Date: 14/11/2021

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We Say No To RAPE - Hope Alive Foundation

Women needs to be loved,respected and cared for. We need justice for our girls and women.  One thing is sure, we need to do more for the girl child, the ladies and defenceless women amongst us.  Say no to rape!! @officialhopealivefoundation  #Notorape #NomeansNo #Haf #HopeAlivefoundation #Behuman #Respectwomen

Ways to avoid & reduce the spread of the #coronavirus

Ways to avoid & reduce the spread of the #coronavirus :

• If you are sick, stay at home & away from people.

• Avoid crowded areas. 

• Wash your hands often with soap & water. 

• Contact the NCDC if you suspect you or someone close to you is infected.

Women’s Day 2020

Women are the key to preserve the human race and in today's world, the importance of women in the society is beyond any suspicion.

Cher has rightly said that "Women are the real architects of society."

Even the progress of the nation depends upon the way the mothers bring up their children. If the mothers are educated, then the whole society will progress.

Napoleon once said: "Give me good mothers and I will give you a good nation."

Happy International Women’s Day!!

From Hope Alive Foundation ❤️

CORONAVIRUSES OUTBREAK PREVENTION

CORONA VIRUSES 

Coronaviruses (CoV) are a large family of viruses that cause illness ranging from the common cold to more severe diseases such as Middle East Respiratory Syndrome (MERS-CoV) and Severe Acute Respiratory Syndrome (SARS-CoV). A novel coronavirus (nCoV) is a new strain that has not been previously identified in humans.  

Coronaviruses are zoonotic, meaning they are transmitted between animals and people.  Detailed investigations found that SARS-CoV was transmitted from civet cats to humans and MERS-CoV from dromedary camels to humans. Several known coronaviruses are circulating in animals that have not yet infected humans. 

Common signs of infection include respiratory symptoms, fever, cough, shortness of breath and breathing difficulties. In more severe cases, infection can cause pneumonia, severe acute respiratory syndrome, kidney failure and even death. 

Standard recommendations to prevent infection spread include regular hand washing, covering mouth and nose when coughing and sneezing, thoroughly cooking meat and eggs. Avoid close contact with anyone showing symptoms of respiratory illness such as coughing and sneezing.

What we are dealing with (COVID-19), is a clinical and hygiene problem. Hence, do not try to outsmart your stars and destiny by:

1. Bathing with Salt 

2. Eating Bitter Cola

3. Creaming with Palm Oil 

It is here and we can contain it by:

1. First by Securing a Clinical Face Cover and Hand Gloves. AND WEARING THEM ACTIVELY WITHOUT SHAME.

Do not shake anyone you did not see washing their hands barely with your hands.

2. Carry around hand Sanitisers for you or your contacts.

Give your children some too.

3. Avoid public gathering of crowds that does not provide the above.

4. Raise alarm on fellow commuters that sneeze or cough without covering their mouth.

5. Wash your hands regularly and DO NOT TOUCH YOUR FACE.

SUSPEND EVERYTHING THAT WILL PUSH INTO DOING MAKE-UP FOR NOW WOMEN!!!!

6. Stock your house with whatever you need for the next 2months NOW and WASH THEM THOROUGHLY. 

Water is our best medicine NOW and we must not mince it when using.

7. Follow other instructions on the attached documents religiously.

If you feel sick, no self medication or using of faith.

Please, you will not be unfortunate o.

Go to the clinic abeg.

This is Nigeria, not China.

If this thing become epidemic, you already know what to expect from a government that could not provide common electricity.

Most importantly, share this with your friends and talk about it in public spaces.

CHILD ABUSE

*CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE*

Child sexual abuse is also known as child sexual molestation. It is a secret crime involving a range of indecent sexual activities between an adultand a child.

According to the National Violence Against Children Survey, it established that *1 in 4 girls* and *1 in 10 boys* experienced sexual violence before the age of 18.

*TYPES OF MOLESTATION*

-Defilement

-Rape

-Fingering

-Making a child watch pornography

-Exposing the genital to kids

-Indecent touching

-Fondling etc

*WHO COULD ABUSE YOUR CHILD?*

*ANYBODY*

Studies show that over *95%* of sexually abused children are abused by persons known or close to the child or the child's family.

*ABUSERS ARE MOSTLY NOT STRANGERS*

They are right there in your house, co-tenants, family members,neighbours. Their friends in school, hostel, classmates,class/school teachers, madrasah teachers, cousins, uncles, nephew, niece, fathers, step fathers, grand fathers, imams, choir masters, pastors, confidants, security guard, maids, family /school drivers, After school/home lesson teachers, mummy's friend, daddy's friend, caregivers, strangers........ the list can go on.

Please, do not ask if any of the above is possible because,there is no case of any of the above that we have not seen.

*CAUSES OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE*

Parental negligence, carelessness, non- challant attitude.

It is as bad as *No one can be trusted*

We have a child presently carrying a baby that belongs to her father*

*OTHER CAUSES*

Absentee parents.

Parents who do not observe.

When d kids are not informed.....

What u watch with your kids.

*WHERE CAN YOUR CHILD BE SEXUALLY ABUSED?*

✓On your bed

✓Right under your nose, under your roof

✓In the school enviroment- class,toilet etc

✓Hostel 

✓Parties

✓ In their room (siblings)

✓Deserted/Abandoned places

✓ When you are distracted

Etc

Perpetrators look for opportunities.

*5mins is enough to cause a life long damage*

*HOW DO PAEDOPHILES GET THE VICTIMS?*

1.Grooming

2.Baits

a. Emotional bait

b. Gift bait

c. Financial bait

d. Familiarity & Respect bait.

Child grooming

Befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, and sometimes the family, to lower the child's inhibitions with the objective of sexual abuse. -Wikipedia-

Gaining the trust of a minor with the intention of having sex relationship with them.

*HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER*

A. Always trying to be around your child or vice versa

B. Child feels uncomfortable when he/she sights d abuser or when d abuser is around.

C. Easily and conviniently accept to care for your child while you are away.

D. Can be hard on the child especially if the child is rejecting his *moves*

Etc

If any of the above is observed, plssss, shine your eyes. Or sometimes, your child might feel uncomfortable /rejecting to go to the person when you send him or her Or even go for holiday.

Sexual abuse happens among sibblings, set rules, seperate their rooms, seperate their beds.

We had a case of twins having sex with each other. When they were asked, they said: we see mum and dad do same.

Why should we be that careless?

Because of the carelessness of both parents,their innocent minds were polluted and their lives were destroyed.

*WHAT A PERPETRATOR SAYS TO A CHILD WILLING TO SPEAK OUT*

•I will kill u

•You will die

•Your mummy will hate u

•Your mummy will beat you

•Your mummy will blame you.

•Your mummy and your daddy will die.

•He could cut d child, lick d blood and says ' *this is a blood convenant between us ,d day you tell is the day you die*

The *SRR*

-Teach ur child-

S - Shout/scream

R - Run 

R - Report

*POSSIBLE SIGNS THAT YOUR CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED*

✓Isolation

✓Aggressiveness

✓Anxiety/Fear

✓Difficulty in walking

✓Sudden drop in academic performance

✓Poor social interaction

Etc

*OTHERS*

✓Sexually Transmitted Diseases.

Their dressing is important, dress to cover them pls. Teach them privacy.They must knock and seek permission before they enter your room.

It is wrong to bath them together irrespective of sex.

PLEASE NOTE

*children never lie about abuse* If your child tells u someone is trying to mess with him or her.... Please believe the child and respond appropriately.

*EFFECT OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE*

-The abused child could become a *serial* abuser

-Depression

-Suicidal thoughts

-Stigma

-Guilt

-Lifelong psychological trauma

-Aggression

-Withdrawn

-Infected with STDs

Etc

*THE BOYS*

More often than not,we pay more attention to the girls than the boys.

With my years of experience, boys are mostly victims- anal sex but because we *do not pay attention*.

For them, healing is a terrible process.

*WATCH OVER YOUR BOYS* Something might just be happening and u perceive not. Do not be a *hard* mum. Strike a balance between love and discipline.

Give your children Sex Education proportional to their age. A child of age 2 or even less is due for Sex Eduacation.

Tell them what nobody must do with their body.

Tell them to *speak out*.

In the house, everyone must respect one another's privacy.

HEALTH: World Cancer Day 2020 Awareness

World Cancer Day 2020 Awareness By Emmanuel Reubenson, Wellness Entrepreneur, Max Associate

What Is Cancer? #A_disease_in_which_abnormal_cells_divide_uncontrollably_and_destroy_body_tissue

Five major categories of cancer, based on their histological characteristics are: carcinoma; sarcoma; myeloma; leukemia; and lymphoma. In addition, there are also some mixed types. The most common sites in which cancer develops include the skin, lungs, female breasts, prostate, colon and rectum, and uterus.

*Cancer starts with changes in one cell or a small group of cells. If any of these signals are faulty or missing, cells may start to grow and multiply too much and form a lump called a tumour. A primary tumour is where the cancer starts. Some types of cancer, called leukaemia, start from blood cells*.

Cancer is a disease caused by genetic changes leading to uncontrolled cell growth and tumor formation. The basic cause of sporadic (non-familial) cancers is *DNA damage and genomic instability.* A minority of cancers are due to inherited genetic mutations.

*Breast Cancer* - A cancer that forms in the cells of the breasts.

More than 100,000 cases per year (Nigeria)

Symptoms of breast cancer include a lump in the breast, bloody discharge from the nipple and changes in the shape or texture of the nipple or breast.

*Prostrate Cancer* - cancer in a man's prostate, a small walnut-sized gland that produces seminal fluid.

A man's prostate produces the seminal fluid that nourishes and transports sperm.

More than 100 thousand cases per year (Nigeria)

*Symptoms include difficulty with urination, but sometimes there are no symptoms at all.*

Here are five potential warning signs of prostate cancer:

--A painful or burning sensation during urination or ejaculation.

--Frequent urination, particularly at night.

--Difficulty stopping or starting urination.

--Sudden erectile dysfunction.

--Blood in urine or semen.

In most men, prostate cancer isn't likely to kill them before something else does. *But since prostate cancer still kills so many men, it's important to find out which men are most at risk of dying early.*

Note

*There are no warning signs of early prostate cancer. You can't feel the growing tumor pushing against anything else, so there's no pain. You can have the disease and not know it for years.*

*Lung Cancer* Is the Biggest Cancer Killer in Both Men and Women. Every year about 200,000 people are diagnosed and 150,000 people die. *Cigarette smoking is the #1 cause of lung cancer.* It is linked to 80% to 90% of all lung cancers.

The major types of cancer are carcinoma, sarcoma, melanoma, lymphoma, and leukemia. Carcinomas -- the most commonly diagnosed cancers -- originate in the skin, lungs, breasts, pancreas, and other organs and glands. Lymphomas are cancers of lymphocytes. Leukemia is cancer of the blood

Five major categories of cancer, based on their histological characteristics, are: carcinoma; sarcoma; myeloma; leukemia; and lymphoma. In addition, there are also some mixed types. The most common sites in which cancer develops include the skin, lungs, female breasts, prostate, colon and rectum, and uterus.

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5 tips for parents to build communication skills with children with autism spectrum disorder

Knowing the right strategies can help parents of children with autism spectrum disorder boost their children’s communication skills. College of Education & Human Development, Texas A&M University

We are researchers who coach parents to communicate with children with disabilities.

Here are five strategies families can use to help children with autism spectrum disorder build their communication skills, along with examples of how to use them.

Autism affects an estimated 1 in 59 children nationwide.

1. Motivate the child to communicate

Create opportunities for your child to practice communication skills. Show your child one of their favorite items and encourage your child to ask for it. Children are more likely to be engaged and communicate when activities are based on their interests. Compliment your child when they communicate. For instance, say “that’s a good question!” or “good job asking me for help!”

Delicia, whose 3-year-old child, Pacho, has minimal verbal skills, motivates her child to speak by placing a cookie in a jar. Pacho can see the cookie but he cannot get it by himself. He has to ask for it. After Delicia teaches him how to ask for it, she will give him the cookie and praise him by saying “Good job telling me.”

2. Model communication skills

Model communication skills by speaking, using gestures and facial expressions. Your child will imitate them. While modeling, sit near your child and respond to the child’s imitation with praise for using the new skill.

Pacho cannot open the cookie jar, so he hands the jar to Delicia. Delicia models by saying “Cookies, please” or “Open, please.”

For children with autism spectrum disorder with nonverbal communication or who have complex communication needs, consider using a tool, called an augmentative and alternative communication device, to supplement their speech.

This kind of communication can be low-tech, such as exchanging pictures to communicate. Or, it can be as high-tech as a communication app on a tablet.

Archie, a 10-year-old with autism spectrum disorder who cannot yet speak, screams when asked to eat vegetables. His father places the vegetables on his dish and his mother models pressing an icon on an app to say, “No, thank you,” and waiting for his response. The mother also says “No, thank you” to give him a verbal model and waits for his response.

3. Prompt the child to use new communication skills

Prompt new communication skills by using verbal, visual or physical guidance.

Fabiana, Archie’s mom, physically prompts him to use the communication device by holding his hand to press the “No, thank you” icon on his app. Then, Fabiana takes away the vegetables and immediately offers something he likes.

4. Allow the child to communicate independently

Slowly remove the prompts so children don’t become dependent on them. You can do this by waiting one or two seconds before using a prompt in order to give the child an opportunity to communicate independently.

After Pacho requests cookies several times, Delicia waits for one second before using modeling or prompting strategies. Delicia will periodically increase the time delay by one or two seconds until finding a delay that encourages independent responding.

Archie says “No, thank you,” with the app when Fabiana prompts him, so she starts waiting for one second before using modeling or prompting. Fabiana will increase the time delay by one or two seconds each day.

5. Expand and generalize to other people, settings and activities

Using modeling and prompting strategies to add new words to phrases the children have already mastered.

When Pacho can independently asks for cookies by saying “Cookies, please” several times, Delicia teaches him a new word by adding “Want cookies, please.”

When Archie can independently use the communication app to say “No, thank you,” several times, Fabiana teaches him a new word by adding “No carrot, thank you.”

Use these strategies during your children’s everyday activities, such as brushing their teeth, having lunch, going to the park or riding in a car.

It is essential to use these strategies with different people and in different settings consistently over time.

- Sanikan Wattanawongwan, J. B. Ganz, Texas A&M University

MEAL PLAN FOR OUR GENIUS KIDS: As we PLAN FOR THEIR RESUMPTION....

#Monday:... Rice and stew/Plantain and boiled Egg...

#Snacks:... Apple/ biscuits/water inclusive 

#Tuesday:... Boiled Potato and white fried egg

#SNACKS:.... Juice and biscuits/water inclusive 

#WEDNESDAY:... spaghetti and stew with fish fried or boiled 

#SNACKS:... Diced watermelon and pineapple (depending on the fruit your child likes/water inclusive 

#THURSDAY:... Beans and Fried plantain/ boiled plantain

#SNACKS:... Gala or any thing strong (because of the beans taken, so your child will not purge)/water inclusive.

#FRIDAY:... Jollof rice and boiled egg

#SNACKS:... drink and biscuits/water inclusive.

❌NOTE..:.. Giving kids sweet is not a healthy living habit... STOP IT❌

For kids who are smaller.. add CEREALS❌ to their meals.. i.e golden mourn, cerelac etc 

❌BOILED EGG and FISH🐟 is more healthier than meat or kpomo for kids❌

Our kids... our pride

Peer pressure: expert advice on how to deal with it and stay true to yourself

The desire to fit in can sometimes make it feel like you have to do what everyone else is doing, even if you don't want to. But it doesn't have to be that way

Of all the influences in your life, one of the biggest is your group of peers. While you’re busy trying to find your own sense of identity, it’s your peers who you’ll look to for inspiration. Of course, friends can be a positive influence, but not always. The years of our teens, up to early adulthood are often when we feel most vulnerable and unsure of ourselves, and the desire to fit in and be accepted can make us give into peer pressure.

Clinical psychologist Dr Andrew Adler, a Hong Kong-based clinical psychologist from the US, has seen first-hand the causes and effects of peer pressure on young people.

“I have treated many teenagers who have social difficulties,” he said. “Often, these teenagers are shy or have low self-esteem. They give in to peer pressure, usually trying to join with other teenagers with the hope of feeling part of a group or becoming better liked.”

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There’s nothing unusual about wanting to be accepted. Humans are social creatures, and it makes evolutionary sense for us to want to belong to a particular tribe, and to adhere to the norms of that tribe – in the past, that’s how we survived.

Our teen and early adult years can also often be a time when family relationships become more strained. You may find yourself feeling misunderstood by your parents, or at war with your siblings. This makes our friendships and the bonds we choose to accept in our lives even more important. If we can’t feel seen or valued by our parents or teachers, then we need to know we can count on our peers.

It’s no wonder, therefore, that the fear of being isolated can lead some young people to do things they wouldn’t otherwise do.

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“The result of giving into peer pressure can be serious,” said Adler. “Peer pressure may cause some to engage in harmful or dangerous behaviours such as smoking, drinking alcohol or using illegal drugs – just to name a few.” 

What’s more, said Adler, “peer pressure rarely solves problems such as shyness and self-esteem. These problems are often the result of anxiety and low self-confidence and peer pressure may make these difficulties worse.”

So while doing things like smoking or drinking may seem “normal” because others are is doing it, it’s important to realise that joining in may not achieve the desired affect – after all, can we really feel accepted for who we are if we aren’t being ourselves in the first place?

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Having said that, overcoming peer pressure takes courage. “Resisting peer pressure, although difficult, is possible to achieve with some effort,” said Adler. “Reminding yourself that giving in to peer pressure will not solve problems such as shyness and poor self-esteem is very important.”

It’s also important to find friends who won’t make you feel like you need to change who you are to be accepted. “Find someone with a similar interest and join that person in activities you both enjoy,” suggested Adler.

“These activities could include art or sports, for example. Finding others with common interests often helps a person become less shy and build confidence more generally.”

This article was curated by Young Post 

Kids Told Lies by Parents Can Face Psychological Challenges as Adults

By Janice Wood 

A new study suggests that children who were told lies by their parents are more likely to lie as adults, as well as face difficulty in meeting psychological and social challenges.

According to researchers at Nanyang Technological University in Singapore, those difficulties include disruptiveness, conduct problems, experiences of guilt and shame, as well as selfish and manipulative character.

For the study, researchers asked 379 Singaporean young adults whether their parents lied to them when they were children, how much they lie to their parents now, and how well they adjust to adulthood challenges.

“Parenting by lying can seem to save time, especially when the real reasons behind why parents want children to do something is complicated to explain,” said lead author Setoh Peipei, Ph.D., an assistant professor in NTU Singapore’s School of Social Sciences.

“When parents tell children that ‘honesty is the best policy’, but display dishonesty by lying, such behavior can send conflicting messages to their children. Parents’ dishonesty may eventually erode trust and promote dishonesty in children.”

“Our research suggests that parenting by lying is a practice that has negative consequences for children when they grow up,” she continued. “Parents should be aware of these potential downstream implications and consider alternatives to lying, such as acknowledging children’s feelings, giving information so children know what to expect, offering choices and problem-solving together, to elicit good behavior from children.”

For the study, the 379 young adults completed four online questionnaires.

The first questionnaire asked participants to recall if their parents told them lies that related to eating; leaving and/or staying; children’s misbehavior; and spending money. Some examples of such lies are “If you don’t come with me now, I will leave you here by yourself” and “I did not bring money with me today, we can come back another day.”

The second questionnaire asked participants to indicate how frequently as adults they lied to their parents. It asked about lies in relation to their activities and actions; prosocial lies (or lies intended to benefit others); and exaggerations about events.

Lastly, participants filled in two questionnaires that measured their self-reported psychosocial maladjustment and tendency to behave selfishly and impulsively.

The analysis found that parenting by lying could place children at a greater risk of developing problems, such as aggression, rule-breaking and intrusive behaviors, according to the researchers.

Some limitations of the study include relying on what young adults report about their retrospective experience of parents’ lying.

“Future research can explore using multiple informants, such as parents, to report on the same variables,” suggested Setoh.

Another area yet to be investigated would be the nature of the lies or goals of the parent, she added.

“It is possible that a lie to assert the parents’ power, such as saying ‘If you don’t behave, we will throw you into the ocean to feed the fish’, may be more related to children’s adjustment difficulties as adults, compared to lies that target children’s compliance, e.g. ‘there is no more candy in the house.’”

“Authority assertion over children is a form of psychological intrusiveness, which may undermine children’s sense of autonomy and convey rejection, ultimately undermining children’s emotional well-being,” she explained.

The study was published in the Journal of Experimental Child Psychology.

Source: Nanyang Technological University, Singapore